My aunt is not a nice person

Dear Pastor,

I am 25 and I am living with my aunt who has never been married. This woman is so miserable.

Every man who I have introduced her to, she said she did not like them. My aunt does not work; she walks around the community chatting people's business. She knows everybody's business. Most people in the community don't like her. She lost the man she was living with years ago and she is fortunate to be living at the house that he owned. His relatives were living abroad, so, when he died and his relatives came and took control of the funeral, they told her that she could live in the house until she dies.

One of the man's brothers fell in love with me and started to call me. My aunt found out and she created a stink. She told them that I am a bad girl and I was always bringing men to the house. Pastor, nothing went like that. She almost caused me to lose my job. This man sent me some money and he registered the letter and my aunt got the slip, so I told her I did not know who sent me a registered letter. But she cursed me and told me that, if I don't break up the friendship with this man, she would see to it that I was exposed. I went to the post office and signed for the letter. I didn't have anywhere to go, so I changed my number and ended the friendship with this man. He got my new number from the people I work with and spoke to me and invited me to spend time with him abroad.

I went and I had a good time, but I came back to Jamaica pregnant. While I was pregnant, my aunt became ill, so I had to take care of her. She did not know that the man who got me pregnant is her late guy's brother. Now, everybody on his side knows of the relationship. My aunt has recovered, but she hates me because the man's relatives are telling me that they are going to give my daughter and I the house, so I need not fear. My aunt is always telling me that I behave like a whore, because only whores behave that way. When I went abroad, she thought I was in Montego Bay with friends. That is what I told her.

This man loves his daughter, but he has two other children and he is living with their mother. He told me he cannot marry me, but he will always support me. Do you think he will? I left my job while I was pregnant because I could not manage to work and take care of my aunt simultaneously. But the man sends me money every two weeks.

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Dear Writer,

I am glad that you do not have to be thinking about where you are going to live.

You have the assurance from the man who got you pregnant and his relatives that you are going to be given this house. Please bear in mind that they do not have to keep their promise. Therefore, you should see to it that everything is done legally. So, please go and see a lawyer who will advise you about what steps must be taken to have this property transferred in your name.

Reading this letter carefully, I do not get the impression that your aunt's man left a will. But the lawyer would be able to tell you what the steps are that you will have to take to make sure that your child and you, and even your aunt, are not thrown out of the house.

Pastor