Punishing my mean, unfaithful husband

July 24, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 years old and my husband is 65. I have been married for 20 years and it has been a miserable life. My husband has never trusted me. We have two children and thank God, they have their professions. My husband watches every penny. He did not give me any money to shop when the children were growing up, he did the shopping himself. He went to the supermarket and every Saturday morning he went to Coronation Market.

If I needed something for myself I had to ask him. So I could not be bothered with that.

My children loved him but they know him to be very mean. He would promise them stuff but never kept his word. As my husband grew older, he got involved with other women.

They got all his money and when I complained about his behaviour, he would curse me and even call me old.

One of his girlfriends has a child and people say that he is the father of that child. I don't see any resemblance of that child to him. Now my husband has got very 'soft', he cannot do much these days.

And he is always saying that he believes that I am going to leave him. But I am not going to leave him; I will punish him. Sometimes I take off all my clothes and walk naked in the house and he is unable to respond to me.

All his strength is gone. I don't feel sorry for him. Tell me what I should do.


Dear B.M.,

You should try your best to work with your husband. He fooled around with other women and was definitely not faithful to you. Plus, he has been a very mean man to you. But surely not to his other women.

Now he is suffering and is not functioning well. I think that you are taunting this man. But what I would encourage you to do is help him to get all the help he needs. Accompany him to the doctor. Don't give up on your husband.

Forgive him for the foolish mistakes he made.


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