Enjoyed giving my man bun
I am in my 50s and I still read your column. You have done such a fine job over the years with this column. I have four children and as they were growing up, we saw them reading your column.
I have something that is bothering me. I never thought that I would cheat. My husband would say that he did his best, but my husband did not believe in exploring my body although we have our own privacy at home.
I was not a dedicated Christian; I had friends who loaned me sex tapes, and at nights I would look at them in my bedroom and my husband was offended because I did.
A few years ago, I went to the US to visit my relatives and I found out that my sister who is married, and whose husband is living in Jamaica, was seeing another man in the US.
She introduced me to the man and told him right before me that she wanted him to get me a man while I was with them. She said I would then enjoy my vacation; I did not object.
We went out together and then we spilt. My sister went her way and this new guy took me to another place. I spent four weeks abroad and my life has never been the same.
My sister has never told anybody what I did in the US and I have not said anything to anybody about what she is doing up there.
I would like to go back to the US, and this man has promised to marry me. He said he would even pay for the divorce. I know that what I did was wrong but I don't know how to stop thinking about this man. Please don't condemn me.
I will not condemn you but your conscience will continue to condemn you. You have a good husband. You seem to have wanted more from what your husband could have given to you in your bedroom.
I am sure he thought that both of you were doing just fine. Too bad that you did not think so, and it is regrettable that he did not stop to listen to you about what both of you were lacking in the area of sex and lovemaking.
However, it seems to me that you were very glad to have the opportunity to go with another man who was able to put into practice what you saw on the sex videos you used to look at.
You said I should not condemn you and I will not, but I know for sure that you are not a good wife. It is a pity that your husband still considers you his wife. Poor fellow.
He thinks that he has a wonderful wife who had her vacation among her relatives; he does not know that his wife was up there giving him 'bun'. I wish he would read your letter and my response and figure out that this letter concerns him.
You are a shameless woman and you don't want to stop because you still want to go back to be with this 'bunna man'. But if you don't stop, take it from me, your husband will find out.