Independent woman looking for an ambitious man

July 01, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I am a beautiful, black 24-year-old who has been single for eight months now. I would love if you could put my letter out and, hopefully, I can meet a good man.

I want one who is kind, ambitious, and hard-working, because I am a very independent young woman who yearns for success. I prefer someone who is living abroad because I like deep conversations over the phone and to have that connection with them.

I have tried dating Jamaican men, but all they are interested in is having sexual intercourse with me. I have a five-year-old who is looking up to me and I don't want her seeing me with different men.

I am looking for a long-term relationship. I hope to hear from you soon.

Initials Withheld.

Dear Initials Withheld,

You have only been unattached for eight months and already you are seeking another man in your life. Why are you in such a hurry? If you are beautiful as you say you are, you should not be in a hurry to find a man.

Apart from saying that you are beautiful and giving your age, you have not said anything about your background, education and your profession.

These are not the days when intelligent men are willing to take on women just because they are beautiful. These are tough days, so when a man is seriously looking for a woman, he wants one that will bring something to the table.

Please do not misunderstand me, if a woman is careless, she will always find a man who would play along. But a woman who is serious about her future has to have a criteria, and a man should have the same.

I hope you understand what I mean, and that you will not be angry with me for telling you the truth.


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